Dealing with FOMO!
F.O.M.O: Fear of Missing Out
Did your plans get cancelled this weekend? So you're now torturing yourself by scrolling through Instagram and Snapchat, seeing everyone you know living their best lives.
Maybe you're saving up money for a vacation or your dream car, so you can't go out all the time like you used too. Your friends? Not so much. . .
They're all meeting up to get drinks, go to the club, see a movie, etc. It's bothering you so much that you jump on social media to watch every single insta-story they upload. At this point, you may be jumping to so many conclusions:
I know this may seem dramatic but, isn't it? In the age of social media, group chats, "cancelled culture", and flaky friendships- it's almost too easy to feel left out.
If you've been dealing with FOMO, trust me you're not alone. The most important thing to think about is will any of these events matter to you years from now? I've missed plenty of events due to being on vacation, not having the money for it, not feeling comfortable with certain people that were going. And guess what? My dramatic ass is still here; still going out whenever I can.
Often times, we allow ourselves to get so invested in the most unimportant things. At the end of the day, we have to do what's best for ourselves- mentally and financially. It's OKAY to say no to plans or to reschedule when you're not feeling your best. If you force yourself I can guarantee you won't have fun, probably kill the vibe and everyone else be able to sense it as well.
You're probably wondering, how can I avoid these feelings? The nagging feeling of being left out, the self-doubt of not forcing yourself to go, and what you missed out on.
For starters: Put your phone down. Instagram and Snapchat (and Facebook, I guess) will only reinforce those negative feelings; don't give your mind the chance to create those thoughts.
Distract yourself. If you're spending the night in, work on a hobby (painting, writing, singing, etc), apply for an alarming amount of jobs on LinkedIn (if you're unhappy with your career or need a change), binge-watch a new show on Disney+ or Netflix. If you keep yourself busy, you won't be able to think about what your may or may not be missing out on.
Tune into your spirituality. Spend some time getting closer to God or connecting with your spiritual side. As I am a Christian, I know this is a part of my life that has been terribly neglected. You can speak to God about your problems, worries, and thoughts. It can be a great way to release any built up feelings you may be holding in your heart.
Whatever works for you, try it out. Take care of yourself first, if these are your real friends then they will understand. At the end of the day, you'll be fine!
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Maybe you're saving up money for a vacation or your dream car, so you can't go out all the time like you used too. Your friends? Not so much. . .
They're all meeting up to get drinks, go to the club, see a movie, etc. It's bothering you so much that you jump on social media to watch every single insta-story they upload. At this point, you may be jumping to so many conclusions:
Are they having more fun without me?
Will it be the same once we all meet up again?
Will they even bother inviting me out again?
I know this may seem dramatic but, isn't it? In the age of social media, group chats, "cancelled culture", and flaky friendships- it's almost too easy to feel left out.
If you've been dealing with FOMO, trust me you're not alone. The most important thing to think about is will any of these events matter to you years from now? I've missed plenty of events due to being on vacation, not having the money for it, not feeling comfortable with certain people that were going. And guess what? My dramatic ass is still here; still going out whenever I can.
Often times, we allow ourselves to get so invested in the most unimportant things. At the end of the day, we have to do what's best for ourselves- mentally and financially. It's OKAY to say no to plans or to reschedule when you're not feeling your best. If you force yourself I can guarantee you won't have fun, probably kill the vibe and everyone else be able to sense it as well.
You're probably wondering, how can I avoid these feelings? The nagging feeling of being left out, the self-doubt of not forcing yourself to go, and what you missed out on.
For starters: Put your phone down. Instagram and Snapchat (and Facebook, I guess) will only reinforce those negative feelings; don't give your mind the chance to create those thoughts.
Distract yourself. If you're spending the night in, work on a hobby (painting, writing, singing, etc), apply for an alarming amount of jobs on LinkedIn (if you're unhappy with your career or need a change), binge-watch a new show on Disney+ or Netflix. If you keep yourself busy, you won't be able to think about what your may or may not be missing out on.
Tune into your spirituality. Spend some time getting closer to God or connecting with your spiritual side. As I am a Christian, I know this is a part of my life that has been terribly neglected. You can speak to God about your problems, worries, and thoughts. It can be a great way to release any built up feelings you may be holding in your heart.
Whatever works for you, try it out. Take care of yourself first, if these are your real friends then they will understand. At the end of the day, you'll be fine!
How do you deal with FOMO? Leave a comment below!
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